Bereavement

moniss

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28. Very true and

Sun Nov 27, 2022, 12:27 PM

Nov 2022

it was much more how it was when families lived more closely together or in the same house through all the generations. I also think it is important when we lose someone to maintain control of your adjustment process and to be OK with taking things as fast or as slow as you choose. Or not so much at all as I pointed out. The echos and memories are not something to be "put away" or "gotten past" but are there to stand beside us as we move on. The hard part is finding the balance between the feeling of loss and the warmth and support those echos and memories can provide. It's all about love.

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Really struggling at 15 months out with losing my husband [View all] imavoter Nov 2022 OP

I'll bet your friends NJCher Nov 2022 #1

I'm also experiencing much of what you are. sprinkleeninow Nov 2022 #2

Thank you. imavoter Nov 2022 #21

I have a friend, Anna NJCher Nov 2022 #3

I did a little organizing and a lot of dog walks. Tetrachloride Nov 2022 #5

I'm so sorry DarthDem Nov 2022 #4

Just have to comment on this NJCher Nov 2022 #8

Bless the time you had with your husband. And understand that some people fierywoman Nov 2022 #6

I can sure understand imavoter CountAllVotes Nov 2022 #7

I lost my wife of 49 years 7 years ago MySideOfTown Nov 2022 #9

I'm so sorry for your loss. imavoter Nov 2022 #22

The hurt ain't never going to end MySideOfTown Nov 2022 #29

Yesterday at our late Thanksgiving dinner DFW Nov 2022 #10

Sending hugs Duncanpup Nov 2022 #11

(((((imavoter))))) John1956PA Nov 2022 #12

I wanted to share with you something I wrote moniss Nov 2022 #13

I will try to read, but sure made difficult by lack of paragraphing. I suggest you go back & edit.nt Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2022 #14

Yes it's a weakness moniss Nov 2022 #17

Posting "just for your own reading" misses the point of this group and this huge site Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2022 #18

Usually when I post here moniss Nov 2022 #25

Old people are often lonely. She seemed to be coping well. Any time we can give them conversation Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2022 #27

Very true and moniss Nov 2022 #28

please know markie Nov 2022 #15

Some great ideas here on this site. multigraincracker Nov 2022 #16

This Thanksgiving was an ass kicker here too IA8IT Nov 2022 #19

You're son too? imavoter Nov 2022 #20

He's 39 so my hope is he will find another and a second "Happily Ever After" IA8IT Nov 2022 #23

thank you for your kind words n/t imavoter Nov 2022 #24

I hear you. And I am so sorry about your loss. Maraya1969 Nov 2022 #26

We understand kozar Dec 2022 #30

thanks so much. imavoter Dec 2022 #31