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Eko

(8,625 posts)
83. I know what you are going through.
Wed Dec 20, 2023, 12:01 AM
Dec 2023

Lost both my mom and dad. I guess its part of what living is, losing those you love. For me it for lack of a better word cemented how much I loved them. Maybe the grief should be equal to the love. It's been a bit. 6 years or so but I am still crying typing this. For all of their lacking I could write paragraphs, but for all their love I could write novels. For you I and all of us I summed it up the best I could.
Keep on keeponing. Put each step forward and take those steps.
That's what they would want us to do.
Eko.

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I'm in MN for my mother's funeral [View all] TygrBright Dec 2023 OP
Peace be with you. mobeau69 Dec 2023 #1
TY, mobeau. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #40
Hugggggggs. I have no words that might help, just know that your DU family niyad Dec 2023 #2
Thank you... leaning into this... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #5
That's a healthy response; I was devastated for 3 years duhneece Dec 2023 #29
You and so many here... Thank you. Community does matter. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #39
I'm so sorry. 😞 onecaliberal Dec 2023 #3
Hugs and light gratefully accepted... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #41
TygrBright. go ahead and cry. Losing your mom, is a very difficult experience. Big Blue Marble Dec 2023 #4
Yes. It's a very strange sensation... They're all gone, now. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #6
I am so sorry for your loss, Bright. sheshe2 Dec 2023 #7
Thanks, sheshe... peace is also an exercise of faith. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #42
Oh my dear TygrBright . . . My heart goes out to you in this deep moment of loss . . . CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2023 #8
Your heart is always a source of consolation here, CalPeggy... ty. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #43
Big hug to ya. Eko Dec 2023 #9
TY, Eko. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #44
I know what you are going through. Eko Dec 2023 #83
Yes, the paragraphs and novels are written on our hearts and become part of us. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #85
A big hug, Bright Easterncedar Dec 2023 #10
Thanks, Easterncedar... and thanks for that sigline of yours. Mom would have approved. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #45
My condolences... 2naSalit Dec 2023 #11
Thank you, 2na. Good to feel the warmth here. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #46
This expresses exactly how I felt 30 years ago louslobbs Dec 2023 #12
TY, louslobbs. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #47
Very sorry to hear of your loss. marble falls Dec 2023 #13
Kind words appreciated, marble falls. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #48
I'm very sorry, Bright. Be good to yourself. brer cat Dec 2023 #14
It's a challenge, brer cat, but the care here on DU is a help. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #49
I am very sorry irisblue Dec 2023 #15
I was just thinking I wish I'd saved some of her voice mails... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #50
What a thoughtful and articulate sharing! Frasier Balzov Dec 2023 #16
TY, Frasier. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #51
When we lose our mom, we are a motherless child and my heart goes out for you Deuxcents Dec 2023 #17
TY, Deuxcents. It is the kind of loss that resonates forever. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #52
Yes, it does. Not time is a better time but in this season, it's especially hard. Deuxcents Dec 2023 #65
Thank you. Yes, holiday traditions can be painful reminders. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #76
I am so sorry. Diamond_Dog Dec 2023 #18
Thank you, Diamond... I can certainly use those. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #53
So sorry for your loss Picaro Dec 2023 #19
Thank you, Picaro. It's a cruel, cruel condition. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #54
Do not inflict guilt on yourself. Recover and cherish the good memories. Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2023 #20
Thanks. I think some guilt is natural, I just try not to wallow. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #56
I'm so sorry for your loss. Phoenix61 Dec 2023 #21
Exactly, Phoenix... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #57
I'm sorry, Bright OddMom20 Dec 2023 #22
Thank you, OddMom... I don't know about 'easier' or 'better' but 'accustomed' will happen. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #58
Man, I am crying a lot right now. BigmanPigman Dec 2023 #23
Yes, it comes in irregular waves... I'll find myself suddenly tired. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #59
I am glad that you are able PlutosHeart Dec 2023 #24
TY Plutos. Great blessing that she was in MN - that elderly waiver was a godsend. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #60
I'm so sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you and livetohike Dec 2023 #25
TY livetohike... there are indeed many stories. I'll keep them in my heart forever. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #62
Hugs snd my deepest condolences for your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Dec 2023 #26
Thank you, ProudMNDemocrat. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #63
Condolences, TygrBriight gademocrat7 Dec 2023 #27
Much appreciated, gadem. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #64
sending hugs joanbarnes Dec 2023 #28
Hugs always appreciated, thanks. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #66
Well written; cathartic for us all. Peace. cachukis Dec 2023 #30
Thank you, cachukis. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #68
No matter how long we have them, they're always gone before we're ready Warpy Dec 2023 #31
Yes, even knowing it was coming, it was still a kind of cataclysm. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #69
So sorry you lost your Mom.It's never easy. Fla Dem Dec 2023 #32
Thank you, Fla Dem. I hope so... she was always a great source of wisdom. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #70
Sincere condolences Alice Kramden Dec 2023 #33
Thank you, Alice. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #71
Your mother's passing was much like that of my mom. She passed away in May 2015. sinkingfeeling Dec 2023 #34
Thank you for this, sinkingfeeling... TygrBright Dec 2023 #72
We're never ready to lose our moms dflprincess Dec 2023 #35
Thank you, princess... so many kind people here. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #73
I can only speak from my experience GAJMac Dec 2023 #36
Thank you, GAJMac. This forum is part of why DU's community is so strong. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #74
Just love. mahina Dec 2023 #37
Mahalo, mahina... n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #75
So sorry for your loss, peacebuzzard Dec 2023 #38
Much appreciated, peacebuzzard. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #77
At the end of the day. you should decide when it ends. OAITW r.2.0 Dec 2023 #55
My Mom would certainly agree. TygrBright Dec 2023 #78
My mom died from ALS. She went from an awesome person in her 70's OAITW r.2.0 Dec 2023 #81
Their pain weaves into our pain, how could it be otherwise? n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #82
I'm so sorry for your loss. Ocelot II Dec 2023 #61
Just so, Ocelot. It's like reaching for a step that isn't there anymore. A jolt. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #79
Your post hit me hard as this will be me shortly. Freethinker65 Dec 2023 #67
TY, Freethinker. I hope your visit brings you some serenity with the transition coming. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #80
Damn, this stuff is hard. Dark n Stormy Knight Dec 2023 #84
Thank you, Dark n Stormy. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #86
TygrBright, I'm so sorry for your loss, BComplex Dec 2023 #87
Thank you, BComplex. You're right about the unique quality of parents' contribution to who we are... TygrBright Dec 2023 #90
I am soooooooooo sorry TygrBright a kennedy Dec 2023 #88
Thank you, a kennedy. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #91
Peace, my dear Hekate Dec 2023 #89
Much thanks, Hekate... presence and 'voices' of my DU friends do console. n/t TygrBright Dec 2023 #92
Saying sorry for your loss won't help, but I'm sorry anyway. imavoter Jan 2024 #93
Thank you, Imavoter, and welcome to DU. n/t TygrBright Jan 2024 #94
Im not new, been here since 2007, had to reup several years ago imavoter Jan 2024 #95
Glad you are still here, then. Kind wishes are always helpful. n/t TygrBright Jan 2024 #96
I'm so sorry, TygrBright... JudyM Jan 2024 #97
Thank you for the kind words, JudyM. I'm discovering... TygrBright Jan 2024 #98
That's an excellent analogy. JudyM Jan 2024 #99
Peace and strength to you and family TygBright. kairos12 Jun 2024 #100
Thank you, kairos12. TygrBright Jun 2024 #102
So sorry - and it all sounds so familiar. Ocelot II Jun 2024 #101
Just like that, yes, Ocelot 11 - Sometimes I 'hear' her voice in my ear. n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #103
What a gorgeous tribute, Bright! ❤️ cilla4progress Jun 2024 #104
Thanks, cilla4progress. Will hold your husband & family in my heart, too. TygrBright Jun 2024 #105
I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Jun 2024 #106
Thank you, LetMyPeopleVote n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #107
Peace and strength to you TygrBright. It sounds as if she led a very productive life. LoisB Jun 2024 #108
She did, LoisB. I'm glad you could share even this little bit of knowing her - thank you! n/t TygrBright Jun 2024 #109
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