This song tears me apart. Regrettably our marriage wasn't as God pleasing

[Big Blue Marble]

1. Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself.

Ruminating and reviewing our behaviors is part of grieving the loss of our
spouse, just; just do not be too harsh on yourself.

It is normal to see our marriages from a new prospective and feel
regret, when what we are longing for is to have our loved one back
with us, even with their "imperfections" and our own as well.