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Bereavement

Delmette2.0

(4,336 posts)

24. There might be some small memories that you will treasure

Reply to murielm99 (Original post)

Mon Jan 20, 2025, 10:00 PM

Jan 2025

I think my Mom was so very tired of being a parent. When I was finally the last one at home her attention and enthusiasm was totally depleted.
I felt ignored and unwanted.
What I treasure is her old cookbook. The cookie section is well used The sections for pies, breads then jam and jellies are wonderful. That is her
legacy for me, her daily cooking, baking, and canning.

I hope you find something simple that brings you peace

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As if this day was not bad enough, [View all] murielm99 Jan 2025 OP

It is hard to lose your mother no matter how strained your relationship was. sinkingfeeling Jan 2025 #1

From what you say, all you need to do is what's next. Not the time to do more. Srkdqltr Jan 2025 #2

... SheltieLover Jan 2025 #3

I will just send you a hug for now, murielm.❤️ sheshe2 Jan 2025 #4

Forgive and Love Yourself ZDU Jan 2025 #5

... alwaysinasnit Jan 2025 #6

One day, one step LoisB Jan 2025 #7

Dear murielm99, just breathe today. irisblue Jan 2025 #8

There is no right or wrong reaction Cirsium Jan 2025 #9

That was me BonnieJW Jan 2025 #20

Just do what you can, when you can. Katinfl Jan 2025 #10

Holding you in love and light. How you feel is how you feel, whatever that is. niyad Jan 2025 #11

Sending you hugs of support, murielm gademocrat7 Jan 2025 #12

It is... Bluethroughu Jan 2025 #13

From me to you William769 Jan 2025 #14

I'm sorry for you IbogaProject Jan 2025 #15

It's called complicated grief Chicagogrl1 Jan 2025 #16

Believe me or not I understand. Hope22 Jan 2025 #17

Take your time, murielm. Sparkly Jan 2025 #18

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this now. yardwork Jan 2025 #19

Understood. 🫶🏽 blm Jan 2025 #21

Not many of us get the parents we wanted or felt we were entitled to. I was lucky. 3Hotdogs Jan 2025 #22

Feel what you feel XanaDUer2 Jan 2025 #23

There might be some small memories that you will treasure Delmette2.0 Jan 2025 #24

Yes to this Unwind Your Mind Jan 2025 #30

Take care of yourself, murielm. brer cat Jan 2025 #25

End of life is such a confusing time that distorts thinking bucolic_frolic Jan 2025 #26

I will pray for strength for you to get through this tough time, muriel99. Diamond_Dog Jan 2025 #27

I'm sorry you have to deal with this murielm99. Clouds Passing Jan 2025 #28

I understand what you mean Then again, strained Dark n Stormy Knight Jan 2025 #31

I understand Unwind Your Mind Jan 2025 #29