I know this isn't about me, it's my brother… May I ask???

[SheilaT]

4. She's not divorcing from her current marriage

so she can keep his health care? Is getting a job of her own with benefits not an option? And she still wants to be out there dating? Just that piece of information alone would tend to make me advise your brother to stay away from her.

I divorced at age 60, after almost thirty years of marriage, and in my case I've had no real interest in dating. A couple of times I met men that I was interested in, and tried to encourage them, and apparently it was quite one-sided on my part. I'm also not doing anything to get myself out there, such as dating sites. It is a whole lot harder to start dating again when you haven't done it for a long time. How long has your brother been divorced? Is he wanting a girlfriend just because he's so used to being with someone that he has no idea how to be on his own? If that's the case, then he really needs to work on the being by himself thing for a while before he tries to start a new relationship.

But this woman still sounds like bad news.