Coping with Divorce or Separation

SheilaT

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22. Do push her very hard to get a job.

Thu Jun 25, 2015, 03:14 PM

Jun 2015

If all you both have in retirement is your SS, it's going to be quite tough. And given what you've said, it's understandable you feel resentment toward her. I'm not going to blame either of you, but I honestly think that staying in a bad marriage is a very bad idea.

She is young enough to get some sort of training, perhaps a certificate in something and get a decent job. I became a paralegal at age 58. There are also tons of jobs in the happy world of medicine, including things like coding, if she's up for that sort of thing. If you have a decent junior college nearby, they are wonderful and have many, many programs to look at.

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