My son is divorced only three months and he's already engaged and I'm worried.

[SheilaT]

5. Oh, gosh.

This kind of behavior seems to be more common in women, but in any case it indicates someone who has not good sense of who he is. Plus, the whole thing about rescuing a girl and she'll feel obligated to stay is, I don't know, creepy? It's not the sign of someone who knows how to forge healthy relationships, that's for sure.

I can't even begin to guess what might help him. Someone like that doesn't respond well to advice from anyone, and of course a parent is the last person who will be listened to. He needs something to get him outside himself, and dealing with life and other people in a more rounded way. He needs to do more volunteer work, maybe. Or a total change of job or career to open him up to different things.

Oh, and how realistic is it for him to say he's engaged to a girl who is living with another man. I suspect he's fantasizing a situation that's not actually what's going on.