Engineered friendships [View all]
Any other loners out there have extroverted friends, who think you need to have more friends, and they go out of their way to try to "engineer" additional friendships for you?
It makes me nuts.
Example: I have a friend who gets his other friends to call/text me to try to make me feel less "alone". Or if he is with other friends and I am home, he wants to pass the phone around and make me say "hello" and engage in 10 minutes of useless small talk with each of them.
This is not fun for me.
I don't feel "alone", I limit human interaction by choice.
His efforts to try to make my life better make it worse because it makes me have to deal with extra people I would rather not deal with. (The *people* are lovely people, it just taxes my limited energy for human interaction further.)
Yes, I have communicated how I feel about this to him. It is hard to get an extrovert to really understand that this effort does not help me, it taxes me. Not looking for advice... just venting, really.
(Insert tiny loner scream of frustration.)
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