The older I get the more I don't enjoy being around people very much.

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12. I understand.

I am kind of like that too. My husband and I have been together over 20 years, I am used to him, him, me. I have a couple of girlfriends. The ones that stick around know better than to expect a lot of girlfriend type activity-- we get together when we get together, talk, laugh a lot and it is like we saw each other yesterday even if it's been 5 months. The needy ones get pissed off or offended at my manner and stomp off for more assiduously enabling caretakers. I have one that deliberately pisses me off every couple of months via email or text. Honestly, if she needs a break, she should just say so and stop giving me cause to think she is a nutbag.

My husband says it's because I run hot and cold. I think that once people get to know who I am, they would be fine with it. I just happen to need lots of time to myself and I like my own company. People tap me out after a while.

I work in a highly social environment (healthcare) so get social stimulation that way. I don't like shopping with other people, getting my hair or nails done with other people. I am not the person who brings a hostess gift with every visit, nor am I a cook and feed the world person either. Food is over rated. I like conversation. I don't like having people at my house because I am a horrible housekeeper and feel self conscious about it. You know I trust you when I tell you go ahead and drop by anytime. I don't like people going through a big fuss at their house when I come over. We are adults, playdates are for children. I'd rather meet at a restaurant than eat at someone's house. I am find with potlucking at a third location. I don't like going to parties or reunions. I am sick and tired of visiting family members/inlaws on holidays.