was to get married and have kids. I accomplished that and was very, deliriously happy for many years. Then my husband cheated and left. So...I had the dream and then it was gone.
I know it's not very 'feminist' to have the dream that I did...I didn't care back then. I was very anti-feminist because I really wanted to be a stay at home parent and my mom was the type of feminist who thought stay at home moms were dullards and stupid and had nothing 'interesting' in life (yes she worked f/t pretty much my entire childhood) and were losers for making their lives revolve around their children (lol, my parents certainly didn't). I didn't agree with her kind of feminism. I realize now why I felt the way I did - my parents treated us kids as accessories not as people. We were molded to fit into their lives, our needs were never considered. There was a lot of emotional manipulation (physical abuse too when I was younger). I felt like she wanted me to work f/t and ignore my kids...like not being a 'slave' to your kids was some kind of liberation. I never agreed with that. I found out later in therapy my parents were likely narcissists.
Obviously, I did not get along with my parents so I rebelled, found a guy and became a stay at home parent. Like I said, I was very happy until my now-ex cheated and left.
So now my new dream is to have a career in business after I graduate university. I did have the dream to become a designated accountant, but it'll take too long and the course work is a bit too intense (and there's a restructuring of the entire qualification system going on in my province currently that makes it even more complex) and my kids still need me (my youngest will be 7 this week). I still plan to take the business world by storm...where I live a degree is still worth quite a bit. I'm currently a f/t student, 4th year of a Bcom, major in accounting, and a single mom of 4. Being a single parent was soooo not my dream. I struggle daily with f/t school and the kids. My ex doesn't see them very often, which is fine by me, but the downside is I don't have much study time to myself. I'm hoping things improve once I'm working and not spending every evening holed up in my room doing homework. I'm hoping that I can also pay for my kids' education (since my parents didn't help me out when they could have and was a major reason I dropped out of university the first time around.) so that is also part of my new dream - making sure my girls have something to fall back on.
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