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History of Feminism

ismnotwasm

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14. I shocked more than one male (and female) friend

Reply to malthaussen (Reply #13)

Mon Apr 21, 2014, 01:08 PM

Apr 2014

When I told him that sexual desire was not a compliment to me (other than my husband--that's a different topic). They literally didn't understand it. When you go through life being an object of value assessment based on looks/weight etc. and you have that epiphany of how much bullshit it is, being desired sexually becomes something ugly, and that's very, very sad when you think about it.

It would be a better world if we separated value from desire, as well as ego, in the sense of "I had that" or "I'd hit it" to use slang to make a point

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This historical picture creeps me right the fuck out [View all] ismnotwasm Apr 2014 OP

Looks more like "steadfastly ignoring" to me. malthaussen Apr 2014 #1

I think her features are more classically Chinese ismnotwasm Apr 2014 #2

There's a definite leer on the guy on the left... malthaussen Apr 2014 #9

what women try to explain to men, that men ignore or simply do not get, is it is about insult. seabeyond Apr 2014 #10

Well, obviously men would tell you to enjoy it because they do. malthaussen Apr 2014 #11

that is exactly what it is, we all know it. it is men showing off to other men to prove they are men seabeyond Apr 2014 #12

I find the flipside equally maddenning, though. malthaussen Apr 2014 #13

I shocked more than one male (and female) friend ismnotwasm Apr 2014 #14

Yep, she is as stiff as a board. redqueen Apr 2014 #3

Thanks--now I have it in my head ismnotwasm Apr 2014 #5

did i hear a part in there about stepping out in the world and harassment? cause man. for men to seabeyond Apr 2014 #6

This is a song from 1995 ismnotwasm Apr 2014 #7

She does look stiff, but her quiet dignity comes through. I bet she has a fascinating life story. Flatulo Apr 2014 #8

this would be a good picture for the men that defend this behavior, saying how it is no big deal, seabeyond Apr 2014 #4