Reading the news about Elliott Rodger's rants about wanting a girlfriend

[smallcat88]

13. Still can't believe

that kind of ignorance is actually taught - to anyone.

My dad was a cop, saw domestic violence all the time. As soon as I was old enough to talk he was teaching me to never let anyone hit me, touch me in certain ways (warnings against sexual abuse), and to always, always, ALWAYS tell someone about it if anyone tried. Tell him, my mom, anyone who would listen. He also taught me to defend myself. And go figure, I've never been abused. EVER. I would never tolerate it. Watching a tv movie once when I was a kid about a guy who beat his wife I asked my mom what she would do if dad beat her. (I knew he wouldn't but the movie made me, curious kid, ask the stupid question.) She shot back the immediate answer 'I'd hit him over the head with the couch."

When you teach anyone that abuse of any kind is 'to be expected' they can send out subtle signals they're not even aware of that says 'yes, I am an easy target'. Guess I never sent out those signals. THANKS DAD! THANKS MOM!

Teach your kids - NEVER take crap from anyone! My brother was a boy. As a man he would kick the ass of any man he caught beating a woman. Taught by the same parents, just slightly different lessons.