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Squinch

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6. Yep. And this whole thing about this label "nice guy." "Nice guy" has become just a

Mon May 26, 2014, 09:26 AM

May 2014

euphemism for one tactic men use to get women to sleep with them.

If a man truly cares for a woman he doesn't act like a nice guy. He just is nice to her. As she is to him. This idea that men have been tricked into being "nice" and are now mad because it doesn't make women sleep with them is just insane.

We are all socialized to be "nice." It's how we can all live together. Men and women. Men in our culture are socialized not to eat bugs. Do they think that entitles them to sex too?

In the same thread I think you saw that, there was a post about a woman who chose a man who the poster thought was bad to her. The poster took that choice she made as a personal insult. They really seem not to understand that it isn't all about them.

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Elliot Rodger is a horrific example of what we here [View all] boston bean May 2014 OP

The sexism and misogyny chervilant May 2014 #1

It creeps and seeps in everywhere. boston bean May 2014 #2

i was thinking the same reading that. yes. nt seabeyond May 2014 #13

I think it's getting worse, too theHandpuppet May 2014 #3

"noticed that threads and posts that would have been deleted or locked not that long ago are allowed hlthe2b May 2014 #9

I also suspect that is the case theHandpuppet May 2014 #15

i was there the first couple days, and saw what it was. a place to say whatever ugly, seabeyond May 2014 #17

The latest Hope Hoops Reincarnation is happily participating over there and is, of course, Tuesday Afternoon May 2014 #24

Sadly though, boston, there are some here for whom this Squinch May 2014 #4

Yeah, I saw on guy testifying that not being nice anymore boston bean May 2014 #5

Yep. And this whole thing about this label "nice guy." "Nice guy" has become just a Squinch May 2014 #6

Holy shit. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #18

an Op. but we are hearing it on about all the posts of this guy. one way or another. seabeyond May 2014 #25

Do you think that being hearing-voices psychotic might have been a contributing factor? nt MannyGoldstein May 2014 #7

Do you think that culture had anything to do with his reasoning? boston bean May 2014 #8

Manny, mental illness can make one even more prone to extremist messages hlthe2b May 2014 #10

Thank you. +1,000 ... 1StrongBlackMan May 2014 #12

Yep, they get the idea *from* somewhere. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #22

This. nt redqueen May 2014 #28

do you think this comment has anything to do with the OP. we are talking about how the last seabeyond May 2014 #16

rationalization (instead of justification) to clarify the terminology being used in the OP = Tuesday Afternoon May 2014 #19

I'm sure it was. but plenty of people think like that guy did, and don't lash out. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #20

"Those people spew poison 24-7. Sometimes, the poison takes." nomorenomore08 May 2014 #36

Point of Contrast tea and oranges May 2014 #21

I agree. Once, my father expressed 'if I can't have you, no one will' to my mother. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #23

Society just hasn't connected the dots yet, you're right... redqueen May 2014 #29

my oldest son and i talking today. he was talking around the issue and couldnt quite get the words. seabeyond May 2014 #33

Did those same voices contribute to the rape-fantasy posted some weeks back? LanternWaste May 2014 #37

Why are you ... 1StrongBlackMan May 2014 #11

LOL wryter2000 May 2014 #27

I'd say *some* of the men understand it better than *many* of the women... redqueen May 2014 #30

bears repeating that many of the men on DU understand the problem of misogyny better than some of th seabeyond May 2014 #34

I doubt there is a man ... 1StrongBlackMan May 2014 #35

Shhhhh! 1SBM! You are going to give away our nefarious plan to divide DU. We told you at Squinch May 2014 #32

Yup ismnotwasm May 2014 #14

this is a very good post that should reach the 6th grade level thinking. dot to dot. seabeyond May 2014 #26

Exactly. We have been trying to raise awareness about this here for years. redqueen May 2014 #31