My experience with a "potential rapist."

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6. This is a frustrating conversation always

when people don't understand it. Obviously not all men would potentially rape, but yeah if we don't know a man, we don't know if he's a rapist or not. We can't tell. They don't have a different colored nose or anything like that. If all rapists had blue noses, it would be easy to tell and then we wouldn't have to treat men without blue noses differently. We could focus just on the men with blue noses and life might very well be easier for the rest of you.

Someone just said to me that it's like avoiding all African Americans because they might commit crime, but most crime isn't even committed by African Americans. How can that be seen to be similar? In one case, I'd be avoiding a group of people stereotyped to commit crime, and in the other I'd be avoiding a group of people which includes the people who actually do commit somewhere around 99% of rape.

Obviously I don't continue to avoid men once I feel I can trust them, or I never would have gotten married. But of course married women get raped by their husbands too. Rape is a major threat to women, and it really frustrates me to see people take it lightly.