Start calling out the term 'slut-shaming'

[IronLionZion]

76. An online conversation doesn't have to be derailed or stifled

no matter who comes into it or what they say. One can selectively respond or not.

An example of something that I may have been involved in:

HoF has a thread about domestic sexual violence (men abusing women). I see it on the greatest page and join in and share my story. I think of it as joining a discussion about domestic sexual violence, and adding to the conversation. Certainly not trying to "derail", "stifle", or "silence" or anything against the other people in the thread sharing their stories or the OP which was probably a news article or blog post about the topic.

However, some may see that as derailing and throw me out and feel angry at me. Others may say "Sorry that happened to you, here's a " and continue on with the discussion. Others may even ignore my post completely and continue on with the discussion. There's nothing wrong with that. That's just how it is. I wouldn't post such a thing in GD, HoF seemed more appropriate. And our own experiences and perspectives guide our opinions and feelings on most everything.

There's no need to respond to every post. If something appears to be derailing or stifling, its OK to not respond to it.

Another example that I can see will happen:
OP here posted a thread about stop using an offensive term. That's fine and it has been an educational experience for many who may not have realized it would be offensive. But you know that in other discussions about the activity in question, someone will use the term and someone else will call it out. Well now the posters in that discussion may be drawn into a discussion about whether its ok to use the term, while others will still continue to discuss the activity in question. It's an individual choice. If enough individuals stick with the original topic of discussion, it has not been derailed.

Back to the original topic, I've used the term before with good intentions but I will stop now that I see it is offensive.