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Kalidurga

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31. There are a lot of adult children who are survivors of domestic violence.

Sat Oct 4, 2014, 07:27 PM

Oct 2014

I think this is a big part of the problem of why people don't want to look at these kinds of threads. The survivors can be in deep denial (it wasn't that bad or it wasn't abuse) or just reading about it can be a trigger.

When the issue of how the NFL handles players accused of domestic made headlines with Rice and Peterson there were a lot of triggers for me. I know too well how this can play out over a lifetime. Neither I nor my siblings ever recovered from what we saw and what happened to us. It's not okay the scars are for life. Each of my siblings developed a substance abuse problem, I developed chronic insomnia and then chronic fatigue.

I think so many people struggle with the issue they have a tendency to want to look past it or put it in the past. I wish that I could, but even at my age I still have to deal with the effects every day.

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sheshe, i have a problem with this lock. i feel your message should be heard, [View all] seabeyond Oct 2014 OP

I agree, seabeyond. I think it was a bad call by hosts. Alerts failed so alerters went to hosts. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #1

thank you NYC. even in the complaining about du, it was the greater context of womens issues. THAT seabeyond Oct 2014 #3

Thank you SKP.... sheshe2 Oct 2014 #42

If that's the case, let me ask you a question. Major Hogwash Oct 2014 #54

You probably know how the discussions about this go... NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #57

Was any mention made alluding to the op Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2014 #2

jury allowed to stand 6-1. "whining about DU/meta". the hosts then got an alert i assume seabeyond Oct 2014 #5

That's an excellent description, sea theHandpuppet Oct 2014 #53

sea, it was not the message that hosts were grappling with hlthe2b Oct 2014 #4

thanks for the explanation. but, i am not really getting the gist of your reasoning. sorry. seabeyond Oct 2014 #6

Concerned we don't incite frivolous alerting, that's all... hlthe2b Oct 2014 #7

I was on the jury for that OP. ZombieHorde Oct 2014 #8

If the post in question is "whining about DU," malthaussen Oct 2014 #9

What is understandable frustration for those here (and many others on DU).. is looked at differently hlthe2b Oct 2014 #10

Yup ismnotwasm Oct 2014 #14

it was off-topic? from GD? you're kidding me, right? BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2014 #11

"off topic" is automatically inserted into every host locked thread, no matter the reason or forum uppityperson Oct 2014 #46

I see nothing wrong with sheshe's post Mister Nightowl Oct 2014 #12

oh, Rec and KICK, by the way. It's National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2014 #13

I opened it and then closed it coldbeer Oct 2014 #15

she was being sarcastic, and she very much did get down to business. no games to be had. seabeyond Oct 2014 #16

your statement is fail. on the face of it. the op was only fuck it. you did not Know what she said Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2014 #43

I see no reason why the thread should have been locked. blackspade Oct 2014 #17

Agreed Texasgal Oct 2014 #18

Adding my 2 cents Omaha Steve Oct 2014 #19

K&R - thread that equates Democratic fundraising to spam soars to the top, and AnotherMother4Peace Oct 2014 #20

i had a republican woman knocking on my door this morning. i told her, i will never vote republican seabeyond Oct 2014 #21

i hope that woman is able to walk. and i hope that son is able to heal. seabeyond Oct 2014 #22

My my, hey hey zeemike Oct 2014 #23

that is silly. seabeyond Oct 2014 #24

It was intended to be. zeemike Oct 2014 #26

meh... i do not really know what you are talking about. seabeyond Oct 2014 #27

My apologies. zeemike Oct 2014 #29

you failed to read the OP also. since that would be the very conversation in the OP. so i gotta ask? seabeyond Oct 2014 #30

I asked you to block me and you still want to fight? zeemike Oct 2014 #34

i did not read the whole post. merely the beginning of excuses. i have no power to block you... seabeyond Oct 2014 #35

Done hlthe2b Oct 2014 #39

thank you. Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2014 #44

You failed to look at the forum you were posting in, but still couldn't Sheldon Cooper Oct 2014 #33

Of course it is ismnotwasm Oct 2014 #56

Thank you, seabeyond, for posting it here. It is important. mountain grammy Oct 2014 #25

my sons grew up healthy and strong and non violent. seabeyond Oct 2014 #28

There are a lot of adult children who are survivors of domestic violence. Kalidurga Oct 2014 #31

yes. all too real. thank you for the post, seabeyond Oct 2014 #32

Yes, I agree - that Rice punch was very, very upsetting - it showed suddenly on AnotherMother4Peace Oct 2014 #36

Same here Kalidurga Oct 2014 #37

wow. and both of you, those of us that did not experience that, cannot even imagine what that seabeyond Oct 2014 #38

yep. it's so important we support each other and share our strength, hope, experience BlancheSplanchnik Oct 2014 #47

As an advocate for survivors of relationship violence chervilant Oct 2014 #62

i would like to add this to my Op, with your permission, and it deserves its own OP. seabeyond Oct 2014 #63

Bad call by the Hosts. DU Rec Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2014 #40

So very sorry about your hide, Tuesday Afternoon sheshe2 Oct 2014 #48

Amazing. NYC_SKP Oct 2014 #58

Delete? Hell no! sheshe2 Oct 2014 #41

Post removed Post removed Oct 2014 #45

hell, no. oooops. they got one. they got another. my question to skinner, seabeyond Oct 2014 #61

sea... sheshe2 Oct 2014 #71

Well, I would have never seen it there if it wasn't posted here. So now this and that both get Recs! freshwest Oct 2014 #49

When we are silent.. sheshe2 Oct 2014 #50

A question to each and everyone of you. sheshe2 Oct 2014 #51

Well, I think you know how I feel about this issue. Major Hogwash Oct 2014 #55

Hugs for all that you have endured, MH. sheshe2 Oct 2014 #72

i wanna come too.... lol. too much fun. seabeyond Oct 2014 #74

Let me know! sheshe2 Oct 2014 #75

Please come to Boston~ sheshe2 Oct 2014 #76

Yes I care. And it starts with myself. Manifestor_of_Light Oct 2014 #52

tuesday should be tombstoned? which host felt the need for a hide, of list of host names? seabeyond Oct 2014 #59

How the FUCK is this off topic? marym625 Oct 2014 #60

Interestingly enough... chervilant Oct 2014 #64

yes. those of us that have been here over a decade, are well aware of others positions on womans seabeyond Oct 2014 #65

Sea.. It is very unfortunate to see that jury hide in this thread, but you should be aware hlthe2b Oct 2014 #66

this... lol, i totally get. cause, i too, have been host and mirt for a lot of my time on DU3. seabeyond Oct 2014 #67

Hey bud, Major Hogwash Oct 2014 #68

omg... seabeyond Oct 2014 #69

Yes, the greater good . . . Major Hogwash Oct 2014 #70

"I had your back" ... always. seabeyond Oct 2014 #73

Got it! sheshe2 Oct 2014 #77

while saying fuck more than a few times DonCoquixote Oct 2014 #78