Vent about how people always blame the mom (History of Feminism group)

[gollygee]

There's a story I read about online this morning about how a dad had his kids for a weekend and got drunk and drove them around, and the kids texted 911 (which is an option where they live) and the police arrested the dad.

So I read the comments - always a mistake but I did anyway - and people are blaming the mom! Instead of blaming the dad for drinking and driving his kids around, they blame the mom because she shouldn't have let her kids go with him. As if she had a choice! Do they know nothing about how divorces and child custody work?

This happened the other day too. A man was arrested for sexually abusing the kid (from the story it sounded like it was probably by the dad but they don't give that detail to protect the kid's identity) and again, people blamed the mom for allowing the child to be with a child molester. Most people weren't blaming the child molester, they were blaming the mom! They said she should go to prison too for allowing the child to be with a child molester! I guess they want the kid in foster care?

This just makes me so angry! Why would people blame the mom when kids are in danger or hurt but not by or around the mom? Are we supposed to become superhuman when we become moms?