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BlueWaveNeverEnd

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57. Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him

Thu Jun 4, 2026, 02:05 PM

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On the days he has custody of the kids, he is sleeping late or going off to golf. Women have to put their foot down or divorce to get out of being the default parent

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"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." [View all] Collimator Yesterday OP

Bookmarked!!! IA8IT Yesterday #1

Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou 23 hrs ago #2

What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity 22 hrs ago #15

A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad 21 hrs ago #16

never heard of it Celerity 21 hrs ago #20

I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad 21 hrs ago #23

One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou 18 hrs ago #37

I've never been a huge fan PatSeg 7 hrs ago #47

Unfortunately, Your words are True. chouchou 7 hrs ago #49

And guess what types of people PatSeg 6 hrs ago #50

My husband and I were invited to a dinner, the first time we saw that.. chouchou 2 hrs ago #60

Do you remember ... oldsoldierfadingfast 2 hrs ago #62

Will the Democrats campaign on that issue? MustLoveBeagles 23 hrs ago #3

Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos 23 hrs ago #5

Yes it is. OldBaldy1701E 11 hrs ago #42

A smart candidate would Jilly_in_VA 5 hrs ago #52

Spot on. Raven123 23 hrs ago #4

So Far Timewas 23 hrs ago #6

Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn 20 hrs ago #25

Yep. My mother won't bank with one of the major American banks because of a grudge related to that. RockRaven 20 hrs ago #31

Same thing happened to my spouse in 1986 Farmer-Rick 9 hrs ago #44

I lived those days Lifeafter70 19 hrs ago #33

BTW StoolPigeon 23 hrs ago #7

Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion 23 hrs ago #9

Dear Goddess, it is very disappointing to see that sort of thing on a niyad 22 hrs ago #12

Being a single parent H2O Man 21 hrs ago #19

Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn 20 hrs ago #26

Sounds serious Torchlight 20 hrs ago #28

Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 19 hrs ago #35

And play mommy with benefits to an adult spouse. xuplate 23 hrs ago #8

OMG! After spending all day trying to find the wallet slightlv 21 hrs ago #17

huggggggggs, my friend. Your DU family is here, so lean as hard as niyad 21 hrs ago #21

I feel it for you malaise 21 hrs ago #22

So sorry. paleotn 20 hrs ago #27

We are here for you, V SheltieLover 20 hrs ago #30

If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical 20 hrs ago #32

Thanks... slightlv 16 hrs ago #38

So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 16 hrs ago #40

Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 16 hrs ago #41

I hear you. Friends we've had for 20 years slightlv 3 hrs ago #59

A humble suggestion ... if he keeps losing his wallet FakeNoose 9 hrs ago #45

Slightly... CousinIT 8 hrs ago #46

Is the VA program mesnt for the vet who's the slightlv 3 hrs ago #58

The VA Caregiver Support Program is for caregivers of veterans CousinIT 2 hrs ago #61

I feel for you; I went thru the dementia caretaker twice. The first time was with my mother. state of stupid 4 hrs ago #55

my brother coached the men's company softball team Skittles 22 hrs ago #10

Was watching a comedy routine Nittersing 7 hrs ago #48

And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu 22 hrs ago #11

And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad 22 hrs ago #13

Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv 21 hrs ago #18

I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder 22 hrs ago #14

As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum 21 hrs ago #24

Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad 20 hrs ago #29

"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET 19 hrs ago #34

GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino 18 hrs ago #36

"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 16 hrs ago #39

Yep. Diamond_Dog 5 hrs ago #51

Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him BlueWaveNeverEnd 4 hrs ago #57

And society suffers from the epidemic of unparented kids. live love laugh 10 hrs ago #43

My wife and I just passed 30 years of marriage in March of this year... Moostache 5 hrs ago #53

Elizabeth Warren points out the "two-income trap"... gulliver 5 hrs ago #54

I think the biggest problem is the exploitative nature of work now. LT Barclay 4 hrs ago #56

A recommendation to all DUers ... oldsoldierfadingfast 1 hr ago #63