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XanaDUer2

(15,724 posts)
Fri Nov 29, 2024, 02:05 PM Nov 2024

I'm done [View all]

Last edited Sat Nov 30, 2024, 11:28 AM - Edit history (1)

Not one supposed friend or loved one minus one person I met here, is ever going to comfort me, tell me its gonna be okay, nothing. I reached out to a cousin who told me my worry is prob giving me headaches and eye twitching. I took 2 ibuprofen for a behind-the-eyes headache.

These are ppl I've traveled hrs to care for post-surgery. Listened to their miseries sympathetically. One half sister, after pouring my fears out just said Geta lawyer. Trying. Driven my partner to drs and supported him and his health and post surgeries.

I'm so fed up, hurt, disgusted, sad, I'm doing the only thing I can. I've taken them off a semi good six figure retirement account for when I die and remove my annoying self out of their lives. My "partner" will be getting a big, fat, motherfucking financial surprise esp. He's going to be PISSED.

I was going to beneficiary my cousin. Not now. My narcissistic money-wasting half sister isn't getting a penny. Id rather leave my money to the state.

ETA: my formerly-close cousin frequently makes the time out of her busy life to fly across country to visit friends. These are well off/ professionally employed ppl, unlike me. So, I would be confused why she always seemed to have the time, despite stressing her busyness to me, to take off to Utah, California, and Arizona.

Post my surgery, which she didn't visit or help me with, she said shed check in (a text)..she didn't. I texted r u ok? And she seemed annoyed. She was in Utah with friends. This whole thing was very confusing to me. Like, one text? Post surgery? Fuck me. I guess.

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I'm done [View all] XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 OP
Sometimes some people just suck. CoopersDad Nov 2024 #1
Hugs. I'm sorry this is happening to you. onecaliberal Nov 2024 #2
Dear XanaDUer2. You are loved here. trust me, it is hard to cut yourself off. but for your own health it must be done. debm55 Nov 2024 #3
m being told by dr XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #4
Please lay down and listen to some calming music. Perhaps sleep. You don;t need them . You are better with out them. debm55 Nov 2024 #11
Thanks XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #80
standard response? CharleyDog Nov 2024 #17
I'm being treated like a neurotic nut XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #19
Agree, even non dentists, look at my chart and see the meds I am on and question me. I know the feeling. They make debm55 Nov 2024 #34
That's how I was treated before I was diagnosed with auto immune. Don't give up. Clouds Passing Nov 2024 #74
I'm so sorry... FirstLight Nov 2024 #5
Democratic underground Keepthesoulalive Nov 2024 #6
If there is life after death XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #7
Is there anyway you can leave BonnieJW Nov 2024 #20
He pays bills XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #40
you have six figures Skittles Nov 2024 #62
I can't easily access it XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #64
Why would that happen? If you've designated someone as beneficiary of your accounts, JustABozoOnThisBus Nov 2024 #28
Not sure i understand XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #41
Oh, got it. What if you "accidentally" ... JustABozoOnThisBus Nov 2024 #44
Naw he'll do something nasty to me XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #45
Sometimes, there's a point where you just have to put yourself first. surfered Nov 2024 #8
Your half sister said go get a lawyer? jimfields33 Nov 2024 #9
I texted her the whole maddening story XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #10
That's really upsetting. I had been going to ask whether Mike 03 Nov 2024 #18
Mild intermittant traveling arnd skull XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #72
Try a chiropractor BonnieJW Nov 2024 #23
Certainly worth exploring. summer_in_TX Nov 2024 #69
That's horrible. I'm sorry about this. jimfields33 Nov 2024 #31
Leave your monies to the dog/cat shelter CharleyDog Nov 2024 #12
I was going to sign on XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #13
I was thinking the same thing. StarryNite Nov 2024 #15
Kinda the same here..... 634-5789 Nov 2024 #53
Rid yourself of ALL the toxic people in your life. They are ruining your life but you continue to care for them. LoisB Nov 2024 #14
"Partner" i have an extra-nasty post-death surprise for XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #35
Reminds me of the old saying... rubbersole Nov 2024 #39
Yep. LoisB Nov 2024 #51
I like Demobrat Nov 2024 #60
Ditto this! Phentex Nov 2024 #63
Ty XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #68
I don't have anyone to leave my money to. Demobrat Nov 2024 #16
Yes if i surviver this XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #21
Don't know where you are Demobrat Nov 2024 #26
NC XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #36
Looks like you need a medical card. Demobrat Nov 2024 #42
Ty XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #43
Spend it on yourself. IbogaProject Nov 2024 #22
Its all I can do XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #24
Im leaving all of mine to the SPCA padfun Nov 2024 #25
If it is a retirement account perhaps you can draw from it TBF Nov 2024 #27
I hear you. People don't get that there are limits. Joinfortmill Nov 2024 #29
Cousin has not been supportive XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #33
Have you tried a neurologist? Before they knew it was the jaw that cracked into my skull they thought it was the other debm55 Nov 2024 #30
I have an ent appmnt XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #32
I have a lady friend today who is helping me remove things from my home. NBachers Nov 2024 #37
They know about this problem XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #38
I don't know if this is something to consider snacker Nov 2024 #46
Ty XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #47
Split it homegirl Nov 2024 #48
No my "partner" esp i want the expectation XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #49
Omg XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #50
If there was no such person as trump, would your partner be better? SleeplessinSoCal Nov 2024 #55
No XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #59
good luck with your new year's resolutions. SleeplessinSoCal Nov 2024 #73
I know I am not the only person who's glad you choose to be here, but also know online is no substitute... Hekate Nov 2024 #52
Ty XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #54
I have no caring ppl in real life XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #57
I don't blame you one damned bit. Paladin Nov 2024 #56
I'll nvr forget this if i live XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #58
I sympathize with you Marthe48 Nov 2024 #61
I told my gp when the headaches started XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #65
Yes, tell the information as many times as you need to Marthe48 Nov 2024 #70
Oh in sure not XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #71
get out of that situation Kali Nov 2024 #66
I asked my cousin XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #67
stop trying with your cousin Skittles Nov 2024 #75
I am. XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #79
I'm so so sorry osteopath6 Nov 2024 #76
Just listening XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #77
Ty XanaDUer2 Nov 2024 #78
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