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Susan Calvin

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47. I don't agree that cats should be free to come and go.

Reply to dingosatemyusername (Reply #26)

Fri Jul 2, 2021, 11:01 PM

Jul 2021

Outside cats kill birds and other things kill them.

We actually had an outside cat that came and went through the dog door who lived to be 18. That is a very rare occurrence. We tried cats with access to the dog door, because there was no choice if the dogs were going to have access to the dog door, and gave up when enough of them disappeared.

I'd like to have a cat, but not as long as I have a dog and the dog door. And if I did have a cat, I'd get one of those automated litter boxes.

I totally agree about not declawing. That is mutilation. Spaying and neutering is mutilation, but necessary mutilation. The claws, you deal with.

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What site? Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #22

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When I was living alone my daughter gave me a chihuahua. She made all the difference. rickyhall Jul 2021 #6

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I can barely care for myself let alone a pet dingosatemyusername Jul 2021 #10

We're all in it together, brother. StrictlyRockers Jul 2021 #19

I'm so sorry. Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #23

I miss having a cat dingosatemyusername Jul 2021 #26

I don't agree that cats should be free to come and go. Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #47

My kitty isn't declawed I_UndergroundPanther Jul 2021 #49

Talk away or post away whichever way you want to put it. blueinredohio Jul 2021 #7

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There are groups for "Adult Orphans' on FB and probably on the web too. Maraya1969 Jul 2021 #12

We should have a group on this site. Oppaloopa Jul 2021 #36

I think it would be nice if we had a zoom room also. I don't know whose willing Maraya1969 Jul 2021 #44

I would suggest a pet. They can pull one out of very deep pits. alittlelark Jul 2021 #13

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Pardon me for asking if it is too personal, Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #50

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Is there a senior center in your area? SheltieLover Jul 2021 #27

Oh my God a declawed rescue cat. Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #51

Right. SheltieLover Jul 2021 #56

boy howdy. i've about lost my mind. mopinko Jul 2021 #28

Have you looked into tele-psych doc &/or therapy? SheltieLover Jul 2021 #29

I've looked into some of those online things, Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #52

It would have to be someone licensed to practice in your state SheltieLover Jul 2021 #54

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What do you mean by accuse? Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #53

Don't quit emmacom Jul 2021 #46

Thanks for all these replies. Susan Calvin Jul 2021 #48

I am too vercetti2021 Jul 2021 #55