Was first-class chaos environment for me. Some good things happened. But the universe delivered many trying events.
One step-son has aspergers. Diagnosed early. Just, covid school shutdowns really derailed his age 18 and 19.
The younger one, 15, has been in mental health intake a few times. Kids are struggling everywhere.
They went to their mothers, which actually helped.
However, she had lost her job like I did in 2020. And her husband left, was back, left, was back. She has a job again.
My husband fell apart, bc he felt like he failed his sons. He quit his job & fell into a depression. Job loss & marital stress has been prevalent everywhere too.
I had found a job. Miracle. Yay! & was working many hours.
I finished my masters. Yay! Which was a lot of hours.
The house has been remodeling project, going on 5 years. 100 years old. So many projects. So many boxes we've moved around and around. So much dust. (I had been in our other house, long story that involves my mom living w me--but we had all convened into this one "not ready" property)
When you start with run-down surroundings, i think it runs you down mentally? started trying to make just 1 room look nice. & would stay in there. Lol.
Decades ago, i read some decent advice about cleaning. If it's overwhelming, get plastic bins, take everything off, say, the sideboard, that's messy & put it in bin. Label it "diningroom sideboard". Put bin somewhere. Keep going. It alleviates "i cant sort, bc i cant decide, bc im overwhelmed " issue. I LITERALLY PUT BOX CONTENTS STRAIGHT INTO BINS---haha. You aren't actually deep cleaning. You aren't deciding anything. (I couldn't!) & u can still retrieve said items. But you ARE creating space & some zen.
Its my go-to low energy method now.
Try to give yourself some grace. Its not just you. It's everybody!
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