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Ocelot II

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13. Listen to your counselor. Let them help you accept the factt

Sun Dec 31, 2023, 11:05 PM

Dec 2023

that your family are terrible people and they will never give you the love and support you want. It's not your fault and there's nothing wrong with you; it's their fault and there's a whole lot wrong with them. I'm sure your counselor has told you this, but you need to get used to not expecting something you will never get. You have a husband. He chose you for you. That means a million times more than trying to get affection from awful people who are unable to give it.

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My cousin has changed her story with me and I am so confused. After the initial call where she agreed with the sex abuse [View all] debm55 Dec 2023 OP

DEAR debm55, elleng Dec 2023 #1

Sending you love and hoping you can find the strength to cut off the whole family who is not worthy of you. MLAA Dec 2023 #2

I wish I had helpful words, or some kind of answers. Sending hugggggs. Please niyad Dec 2023 #3

I have a little different idea about family . Permanut Dec 2023 #4

I'm so sorry you had and still have such terrible experiences Ocelot II Dec 2023 #5

In a way that I want to hear the words, I love you from my mother' s mouth. This is strange but the only "love" I know debm55 Dec 2023 #11

Listen to your counselor. Let them help you accept the factt Ocelot II Dec 2023 #13

The answer to that is not in you. nocoincidences Dec 2023 #17

Sometimes, for no apparent reason, one child becomes the scapegoat Wicked Blue Jan 2024 #29

Somewhere, find a thought that makes you feel good, and sleep with that thought bucolic_frolic Dec 2023 #6

I am so sorry you are in such a hard place. 1WorldHope Dec 2023 #7

Oh Deb, please take care. yorkster Dec 2023 #8

debm55, you have been through a lot. Please don't give up. You have friends here spooky3 Dec 2023 #9

You are such a great person who gives many of us smiles. BoomaofBandM Dec 2023 #10

Free yourself democrank Dec 2023 #12

Dearest Deb, your family does not deserve you. I feel your cousin is very, very wrong. Ziggysmom Dec 2023 #14

DU loves you better nocoincidences Dec 2023 #15

dear Heart, Let self-preservation begin this minute WhiteTara Dec 2023 #16

From all you have told us about the abominable way... 3catwoman3 Jan 2024 #18

I'm sorry you are hurting cate94 Jan 2024 #19

When I was young, the poem Dan Jan 2024 #20

OMG Deb Duncanpup Jan 2024 #21

debm55, I may be misreading your post. . . UniqueUserName Jan 2024 #22

She did agree with me that my grandmother sexually abused us when we were taking baths. For that I am grateful. My debm55 Jan 2024 #23

You are not obligated to call your mother. UniqueUserName Jan 2024 #24

What if she calls me? This the Mother that let her son me a Pimple Faced Whore for three years. I got engaged, got debm55 Jan 2024 #25

Maybe think of it as "taking a break" - text her "Happy Birthday, hope you liked the card." TigressDem Jan 2024 #31

You are not obligated to communicate with them. onecaliberal Jan 2024 #26

Go back to the day before your cousin called MOMFUDSKI Jan 2024 #27

Deb I am so sorry for your pain. Hope22 Jan 2024 #28

You bring us joy. Nanuke Jan 2024 #30

I had to cut off bad treatment. LakeArenal Jan 2024 #32

I am going to use my birth vernacular here... OldBaldy1701E Jan 2024 #33

Deb XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #34

Please don't feel that way. We love you. I miss you in the Lounge.Sending you my love. debm55 Mar 2024 #35

Ty. Just had a screaming fight with my XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #36