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[tandot]

4. I don't know why some people are so mean

maybe they are so unhappy with themselves or never were able to get past their own horrific experiences...or, maybe they are just selfish individuals who were never taught to treat others like you want to be treated.

I am upset when I come across people like that because I just can't understand it. But, I just can't let that get me down. I try to make myself feel sorry for them ... because there must be something wrong to act that way?

My sister had a similar experience like you (I was the youngest child and too sick to be abused). My sister was the one who got most of the abuse. She is now over 50, has adopted 4 children, has a Master's degree and works at a residential facility with kids with severe developmental disabilities. I admire her for what she has accomplished, her resiliency and patience, and she is the poster child for putting ones own horrible experiences behind her and helping those who are in need.

Just remember that you are not alone