How do you accept aging and changing abilities?

[PikaBlue]

5. Some Thoughts

I am 71 years old. I have no health issues, I am still employed, and I am, as of now, totally independent. I won't be able to maintain that status forever and I have plans in place, as well as my funeral costs paid in advance. I don't know your friend's geographical location or financial status. Where I am located, we have lovely retirement communities. My mother lived at one until she passed away at 94. She purchased her apartment and lived independently for more than 12 years. In the event that she had been unable to do so, her apartment would have been sold and she would have moved directly to that same retirement community's assisted care accommodations or the more advanced skilled nursing/ hospice care. For someone who is single and, perhaps without other family to provide care, a retirement community may be a practical choice. The retirement community my mother chose had 5 dining rooms, 5 libraries, a beauty salon, restaurants, a church which offered separate services for the more traditional religions, a medical center, EMT team, security guards, pharmacy, bank, and swimming pool were also on site. Shuttles ran multiple times daily to all of the local grocery stores, as well as Target and Wal-Mart. Although I have a daughter living nearby, we have agreed that if and when I am no longer able to live independently, we can decide if I should sell my home and move to the same community. One additional consideration: my mother purchased her apartment. When she passed away, her apartment was sold and was included in our inheritance. Has your friend looked into retirement communities? They come in all price brackets, depending upon the type and scope of amenities and support services they offer. Some communities are more streamlined and offer a small apartment, dining room services, and shuttles. Having a community of other people your own age is a benefit. Too many older people are left in isolation and loneliness.The most essential personal strategy on aging that is fundamental to this last phase of my life, is to believe that there is still room for new experiences, for meeting new people, for growth, and enjoyment, even as my body and mind wind down, or I am beset with health issues that may limit my activities and capabilities. It's a matter of finding living arrangements that will support those goals. I wish you both the very best!