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Warpy

(113,131 posts)
10. The most polite response to any of these leeches is "Fuck off!"
Tue Mar 14, 2023, 03:27 PM
Mar 2023

and I sincerely hope you used it. If not, start, as in "I don't have that stuff, fuck off."

Anything from your friend has to go through his family, and I'm betting that's the response the leeches have already gotten from then, so they're trying to lean on a nicer person (you).

It's tough when you've broken off a friendship after a quarrel and suddenly there is no way to make up. Nothing is as final as death. However, you need to remember that it was a two way street, and there was a big roadblock at his end of it, also. You're a loose end he never tied up and he's a loose end you'll never get to tie up.

What you can do is maintain some contact with his family. Warn them about the grabby "friends" banging on your door. Later, you might share some snaps of your travels, that sort of thing.

Just don't feel guilt. He could have called you, also, especially if he hadn't been doing well. The burden isn't entirely yours.

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I despise ShepKat Mar 2023 #1
His "friends" sound more like vultures. LoisB Mar 2023 #2
No kidding! calimary Mar 2023 #17
Yes I really cared RSherman Mar 2023 #23
you are a fine person Skittles Mar 2023 #30
What disgusting people! I'm so sorry your friend died thinking those ... CousinIT Mar 2023 #3
Parasites are shameless. So Sorry you have to deal those creatures. IA8IT Mar 2023 #4
It's like the body snatchers really did happen and this is the kind of alien we have to deal with. Baitball Blogger Mar 2023 #5
I'm sorry you've had these predators on top of your grief... Karadeniz Mar 2023 #6
I am sorry for the loss of your friend irisblue Mar 2023 #7
Very sorry for your troubles. My sincere condolences. Tetrachloride Mar 2023 #8
Scott knows now Marthe48 Mar 2023 #9
The most polite response to any of these leeches is "Fuck off!" Warpy Mar 2023 #10
Thank you RSherman Mar 2023 #14
You're a dear, RSherman and I'm certain Quakerfriend Mar 2023 #26
What you're describing is theft. Report it. yardwork Mar 2023 #11
I agree. 2naSalit Mar 2023 #13
+1 geardaddy Mar 2023 #35
Call the police if they are coming to your home... 2naSalit Mar 2023 #12
Exactly Rebl2 Mar 2023 #15
So very sorry, this is so tough. TNNurse Mar 2023 #16
I'm so sorry for your loss. About the guy who showed up at your house... Joinfortmill Mar 2023 #18
Our elderly friend in Arizona was so screwed over by his "friends". They wrecked his car OMGWTF Mar 2023 #19
Those are some horrible people. You're right to stay away and ignore them. C Moon Mar 2023 #20
There are just some really horrible people out there DFW Mar 2023 #21
Friends owed money Nasruddin Mar 2023 #22
If you know her name call in an elder abuse report IbogaProject Mar 2023 #24
Peole are horrible. I am sorry for your loss and hope for some sort of resolution where you can be Evolve Dammit Mar 2023 #25
Scott had a mother, sister, and daughters, Demobrat Mar 2023 #27
Was there a will? cab67 Mar 2023 #28
Tell all the 'visitors' that you are not the executor of his will. dickthegrouch Mar 2023 #29
Then he claimed Scott owed him $400 and he wanted it from me!" Ray Bruns Mar 2023 #31
They cannot imagine helping people as you have helped. raging moderate Mar 2023 #32
Leeches Duncanpup Mar 2023 #33
I am so sorry for your loss. Maraya1969 Mar 2023 #34
Thank you, Everyone RSherman Mar 2023 #36
So sorry for your loss. TdeV Mar 2023 #37
I have seen this so many times. murielm99 Mar 2023 #38
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