We seperated & divorced more then 4 yrs ago. Why do I still dream about her?

[PJMcK]

3. elleng's comment is profoundly important

She will always be a part of your psyche. The intimacy created by love (and marriage) bores deeply into our souls. Those people will always be with us.

My first wife and I had been divorced for 15 years and hadn't spoken in over 10 when I learned that she had died. I grieved for days. For most of the 1980's we shared every day together. Many events from that time are permanently connected with that lady.

Recently, I learned that my first love from my late teenage years had died. We had reconnected by phone and email about 16 or 17 years ago and we spoke frequently although we never did see one another again. She had experienced a lot of problems in her life and didn't always handle them in the best ways but we had shared an important part of our lives together. Her death saddens me in ways that surprise me.

Ultimately, the emotions we feel are what make us alive! Embrace them and don't deny them. Besides, that's where freedom could be lurking. (wink)