Coping with Divorce or Separation

LT Barclay

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16. I'm going to offer a perspective that is not very uplifting, but may help you put things in

Sat Oct 22, 2022, 08:02 PM

Oct 2022

perspective...
My sister went through a horrible 1st marriage and if I talked to her, she'd have me convinced her ex and daughter are crazy and I would start to believe it. If I talked to the ex, he'd have me convinced my sister and her daughter were crazy, and if I talked to my niece, you guessed it, I'd start to believe the other 2 were crazy.
I had a similar situation with a friend of mine, his wife and her daughter.
So I came to the realization that they are probably all nuts. It didn't fix anything, but it helped me deal with things a little better.

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Looking for some advice. We are out of our depths and quite lost at sea...read on. [View all] NewHendoLib Oct 2022 OP

Get her a lawyer, NO 'go back into the house and cohabitate,' elleng Oct 2022 #1

we are working on that as fast as we can. At this time it is 1.5 weeks away - too long NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #2

it hurts when kids hurt... markie Oct 2022 #3

All in play - we will know more tomorrow - NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #34

Her safety and wellbeing come first Wild blueberry Oct 2022 #4

thank you. She may be here with us tomorrow. We will know more in the AM. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #33

Get her out of that house montanacowboy Oct 2022 #5

YES, She is in danger! McKim Oct 2022 #15

yes indeed - agreed - thanks. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #32

No children ? dweller Oct 2022 #6

thanks so much. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #31

Safety 1st, NHL! No cohabitating. SheltieLover Oct 2022 #7

Us! The offer is there. It could happen tomorrow. Still a very rapidly changing situation. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #30

Yw SheltieLover Oct 2022 #37

Well if she suspects he could become violent... druidity33 Oct 2022 #8

that may be what happens next - tomorrow - we will know more then. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #29

NO! If divorce requires a mandatory year of separation, why would you advise her to cohabitate? pnwmom Oct 2022 #9

thanks - and we want her out of there - but she has to want to, and NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #28

If NC law requires mandatory separation for a year to get divorced, then why would Gaugamela Oct 2022 #10

absolutely. It is about her getting her basic things she needs right now NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #27

Posessions are replaceable. She is not. judesedit Oct 2022 #11

thank you. agreed. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #26

Wishing you all the best for your daughter and you. MLAA Oct 2022 #12

thanks - great suggestion...appreciated. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #25

Why would she cohabit when they legally need to separate? She needs to get a restraining order, Karadeniz Oct 2022 #13

Agreed - but it is complicated by the fact he keeps taking/moving her "stuff" NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #24

All she needs are her clothes and basics. Everything else will remind her of a bad marriage. Karadeniz Oct 2022 #35

exactly. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #36

Safety first. Dan Oct 2022 #14

Thanks - yes indeed. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #23

I'm going to offer a perspective that is not very uplifting, but may help you put things in LT Barclay Oct 2022 #16

Now, Mr. Barclay... OldBaldy1701E Oct 2022 #18

If I could find the holodeck again, I probably wouldn't leave. Things are crashing here too. LT Barclay Oct 2022 #20

Thanks - and you touch on something important - NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #22

Go to Nevada Randomthought Oct 2022 #17

I do divorces as a licensed non-attorney advocate in Washington state cilla4progress Oct 2022 #19

thanks - I answered your DM. NewHendoLib Oct 2022 #21