So how come Miley Cyrus gets shamed

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21. That certainly was a key issue in the Janet Jackson-Timberlake thing

Janet got all the shit because women's bodies become sites of cultural contestation, where the man is seen as doing no wrong because there is no expectation for him to be modest or restrained. There was a racial subtext to all of that as well, of the stereotype of the hypersexualized black woman. In this case, however, I don't see Thicke participating in Miley's behavior/performance. Firstly, she started out earlier in her own number with the Teddy Bears. She was sticking her tongue out in a weird way that I am guessing she thought was sexy but I can't imagine anyone else saw it that way. Then when she was singing with Thicke he wasn't connecting with her at all. He was looking away and from what I could see never touched her, though she touched him. They aren't actually touching during that butt grinding/bumping thing but at certain angels it appears closer than they actually are. Her performance didn't looked planned to me. I think she took a bunch of drugs and behaved in ways no one expected. I don't know what he could have done to improve the situation other than walking off the stage.

Now I know everyone is going on about how she didn't have enough clothes on and was behaving in appropriately. So there is that broader conversation that I have no doubt your point relates to. But as far as I'm concerned, it wasn't an issue of her being sexy but rather looking totally out of it. If I was her family I'd be checking on her in regard to chemical abuse.