History of Feminism

CrispyQ

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45. My input on porn from another post.

Reply to Gravitycollapse (Original post)

Wed May 28, 2014, 12:47 PM

May 2014

I know it's anecdotal, but it was an eye opening evening.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1255&pid=43681

We had a wine night a few weeks ago & there was 56 year old me, married to the same man for 27 years & listening to 30+ single women talk about men & dating.

Some comments I heard:

> "I consider a guy good in bed if he can get it up." (Lots of laughing at that one.)

> "I asked my BF if he wanted to do it in front of the computer so he could finally come." (Lots of heads nodding at that one.)

> "I asked my BF if I was supposed to be okay with him preferring porn over me, then would he mind if I found a guy that preferred me over porn?" She said her BF belligerently responded with, "What, are you breaking up with me?"

Two of the women were married like me & grateful they weren't single anymore. I came home & told my 60+ year old husband everything & we laughed cuz we still have a rollicking good time without any problems.

I know this is just anecdotal, but for people who claim porn isn't a problem, I believe they are wrong.

From what I've read, today's porn isn't anything like the porn I saw back in the early 80's.

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I wonder if this might help with those who choose to watch pornography... [View all] Gravitycollapse May 2014 OP

our young men cannot get it up with real women and our young women seabeyond May 2014 #1

Feminist pornography does exist. Although it is vastly outpaced. Gravitycollapse May 2014 #5

but that is not what the vast majority of men watch, want or get off on. they want denigration, seabeyond May 2014 #7

Wait a minute sea ... Ligyron May 2014 #25

87% of the mainstream hetero porn is violent, degrading, humiliating, submissive, with women. seabeyond May 2014 #29

I'll take your word for it. Ligyron May 2014 #32

lol... lig seabeyond May 2014 #34

I don't know that it's unique, but TXPaganBanker May 2014 #52

... Phlem May 2014 #2

you know what phlem. i think i will talk to the hosts tomorrow about a new rule. no popcorn. seabeyond May 2014 #3

I second the motion. Tuesday Afternoon May 2014 #8

Hey sea - excellent idea. Me three. :-) seaglass May 2014 #11

And I am not surprised. Phlem May 2014 #13

thank you for making clear your intent, letting all know we got it right. seabeyond May 2014 #14

yup. Phlem May 2014 #16

it is about being respectful. and this would be what, the third time i have mentioned that word. seabeyond May 2014 #17

You seem rather hysterical, shrill and irrational. LanternWaste May 2014 #54

Oh, ok then. Phlem May 2014 #58

Goodbye, indeed. Sheldon Cooper May 2014 #59

I came into this thread to see the discussion and what the replies might be. Phlem May 2014 #60

This is the only group on DU I know of that can turn the "popcorn smiley face" into Phlem May 2014 #61

2-5 leave. msanthrope May 2014 #62

For some reason you are not yet blocked from this group, and I intend to check in with the hosts to Sheldon Cooper May 2014 #65

. geek tragedy May 2014 #63

Thanks! Phlem May 2014 #64

I don't like it ismnotwasm May 2014 #4

"I just can't see how at this period in history" - That is the problem... Gravitycollapse May 2014 #6

I look at it this way ismnotwasm May 2014 #33

The Story of O wryter2000 May 2014 #12

coolest. and i thought we taked years ago. or maybe not. maybe it was another seabeyond May 2014 #19

It could have been me. wryter2000 May 2014 #20

too fuggin funny seabeyond May 2014 #23

I didn't know about that, either wryter2000 May 2014 #48

I don't read French ismnotwasm May 2014 #22

Cool ismnotwasm May 2014 #43

I promise I'm not lazy wryter2000 May 2014 #49

To hell with porn xfundy May 2014 #9

I think our society takes things that are beautiful ... dawg May 2014 #10

and commodifies everything, mahina May 2014 #47

Doubtful CFLDem May 2014 #15

stop. stop dismissing women and our issues. you have been away and taunt me in pms with the c word seabeyond May 2014 #21

Did you alert on that PM? redqueen May 2014 #24

exactly. i had never alerted before. so, i did not know what would happen. seabeyond May 2014 #26

so, serial scum pming, and meh... not a big enough deal. seabeyond May 2014 #27

It does seem like a very *odd* bug. nt redqueen May 2014 #28

here would be an email of his i got just this moment. seems pretty confident he is protected or seabeyond May 2014 #30

Wow. redqueen May 2014 #31

maybe it is an ATA question, but i think that they might just automatically seabeyond May 2014 #35

Sure but if they're aware of his PMing you, goading you with it... redqueen May 2014 #36

ya. i kinda thought taunting a feminist with the c word in pms seabeyond May 2014 #37

And did you notice his vote in tygrbright's turd of a poll? nt redqueen May 2014 #38

"male hating bitches" yes. i did. jury... this was the description of feminists seabeyond May 2014 #39

Some bodies transparency page is showing ismnotwasm May 2014 #56

wow. and aaaaah. too sad. lol. thanks. i wazzz clueless. nt seabeyond May 2014 #57

Yeah, I just opened a pathetic email from him Sheldon Cooper May 2014 #66

That's the world you live in inside your head. JTFrog May 2014 #55

Are you ok CFL? You seem overly hysterical, irrational, shrill, and easily upset. LanternWaste May 2014 #67

He can't respond because he's resting now. Sheldon Cooper May 2014 #68

Where are you getting that "roots of pornography" information? redqueen May 2014 #18

Want to know what cracks me up? ismnotwasm May 2014 #40

yes. academics will argue. lol. but do not let that get in the way of porn lovers seabeyond May 2014 #41

It's really quite sad. redqueen May 2014 #44

btw... this video is the best ever. from this perspective. nt seabeyond May 2014 #42

My input on porn from another post. CrispyQ May 2014 #45

this would be my point. what i am hearing and seeing also. nt seabeyond May 2014 #46

There's definitely differences Blue_Adept May 2014 #51

It's interesting that early porn movies depicting the use of vibrators led to its stigmatization. jakeXT May 2014 #50

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