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Violet_Crumble

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66. I don't really get it...

Mon Jun 9, 2014, 07:31 AM

Jun 2014

It's not a term I've heard in real life, but I've seen it used on the internet. If it's some ''claiming back the word' thing, I don't think it works at all. It comes off as a slur, and I haven't really seen it used in any context that makes me think otherwise...

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Who else here is sick to death of the term 'slut shame'? [View all] redqueen Jun 2014 OP

I've not heard it used yet... FarPoint Jun 2014 #1

It's in the thread about the billionaire who molested his 12 year old stepdaughter. redqueen Jun 2014 #2

Thank you for the reference... FarPoint Jun 2014 #4

thank you. I did not understand the context of the OP. I must say that I never Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #16

I have never understood it's purpose... giftedgirl77 Jun 2014 #3

I'm sick of it. TheBlackAdder Jun 2014 #5

it wasn't before? VanillaRhapsody Jun 2014 #12

I think you're talking past each other, unless you're being sarcastic. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #48

of course it is not becoming non gender specific. a man still gets a pat for "getting" it. a woman seabeyond Jun 2014 #50

I was referring spiecifically to his post about Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #52

that's just plain bullshit....Men have never been shamed for being sexual and enjoying sex.... VanillaRhapsody Jun 2014 #55

Ok, I'm out of here. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #62

different posters. but ya. i hear what he was meaning. we get that. we have heard it enough. seabeyond Jun 2014 #64

I've heard my nephews use it to describe males, but it was praise, similar to 'stud-muffin'. Flatulo Jun 2014 #69

absolutely and why lie to ourselves. certainly will not encourage progression. seabeyond Jun 2014 #71

Uh I find that not believable.... VanillaRhapsody Jun 2014 #54

Then take it up with him. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Jun 2014 #63

I am BainsBane Jun 2014 #6

Thank you, that is a VERY important point. redqueen Jun 2014 #8

exactly! Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #17

I never liked it at all. MH1 Jun 2014 #7

I totally agree! DesertDiamond Jun 2014 #9

Never heard the term Android3.14 Jun 2014 #10

you have now. Welcome. What is your first impression of the term? Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #30

Sounds cumbersome Android3.14 Jun 2014 #46

you think those workers are slut shaming that woman ... ? Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #47

If it's that complicated Android3.14 Jun 2014 #53

Why shame anyone for their sexual proclivities? Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #61

Yeah. It sucks. This whole concept of "taking back" terminology doesn't work. Squinch Jun 2014 #11

Exactly, thank you for saying it so well. redqueen Jun 2014 #27

Speaking as someone who hates the word "slut," I think the phrase "slut-shaming" StevieM Jun 2014 #13

your post makes no sense to me. Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #24

Yes, I understand the way it's used, but it doesn't change the fact redqueen Jun 2014 #28

I think you are correct about how it is meant, but the fact remains that we are Squinch Jun 2014 #56

yes. i am saying to my boys. that there is even a term, is the issue. seabeyond Jun 2014 #14

I see the term as a positive development paulkienitz Jun 2014 #15

? Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #18

I'm saying the same as Stevie M paulkienitz Jun 2014 #20

his post makes no sense to me, either. Tuesday Afternoon Jun 2014 #25

read baines above. the point. approaching as you do also allows the prude shaming. same thing, seabeyond Jun 2014 #19

that may be true but this is still a step forward from the prior status quo paulkienitz Jun 2014 #21

not "that may be true". it is true. and it matters. and no. it is not a step forward. it is seabeyond Jun 2014 #22

in what way, to meet these standards, should the public respond to someone calling "slut"? paulkienitz Jun 2014 #26

I'll agree it's lazy. boston bean Jun 2014 #23

It is a clumsy way to get the point across, though. redqueen Jun 2014 #29

We probably need a word or phrase that includes boston bean Jun 2014 #31

'Misogyny' works for me. nt redqueen Jun 2014 #33

Nailed that one, RQ. n/t malthaussen Jun 2014 #41

You're right. That standard is never applied to men. Rozlee Jun 2014 #35

and this is what we should go after. the god like status we give male sexuality. i call bullshit. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #44

Not in my lexicon, as it happens. malthaussen Jun 2014 #32

It's a useless term. redqueen Jun 2014 #37

No, it's a useful term. malthaussen Jun 2014 #39

I think you and I have had discussions about a particular term that you have used msanthrope Jun 2014 #34

then discuss it with the pro porn people, that you obsess so over that terminology. seabeyond Jun 2014 #45

I have never met a male, or a "pro-porn" person on this board who has used the term I am msanthrope Jun 2014 #58

If you google that term, 5 of the top 10 returns are porn. MadrasT Jun 2014 #59

If I google that term on this site, the results are exactly as I have noted. I do not msanthrope Jun 2014 #60

you KNOW the context it was used. and you are using THAT to attack a poster you do not like seabeyond Jun 2014 #65

Thanks for a perspective I hasn't considered theHandpuppet Jun 2014 #36

It is just one facet of the turd gem that is sexual prejudice. Half-Century Man Jun 2014 #38

I predominantly used the word slut mackerel Jun 2014 #40

Me. I tried it out a few times, and I was never comfortable with it ismnotwasm Jun 2014 #42

I think most feminists have realized that reclaiming it is only possible for privileged women. redqueen Jun 2014 #43

It is indeed praise Flatulo Jun 2014 #70

I deplore it. MadrasT Jun 2014 #49

Because it exists Warpy Jun 2014 #51

I know that misogynist assholes and ignorant people use the word 'slut'. redqueen Jun 2014 #57

I don't really get it... Violet_Crumble Jun 2014 #66

I have ALWAYS despised this saying TorchTheWitch Jun 2014 #67

Wish I could rec your post. redqueen Jun 2014 #68