Thank you for this group...I hope I can post...I started to then chickened out..

[Ms. Toad]

16. More that I avoid making phone calls thatare likely to be emotional

Which can be a really bad thing, since it is hard to explain to my employers why I find it difficult to get around to making phone calls that would be trivial to others.

It is odd I can go for years without needing to say anything to anyone about avoiding phone calls. Then twice in a year friends suggested phone calls (rather than either written or face to face conversations), and I had to turn them down. Which creates its own little cascade. One of those friends now is very hesitant to ever suggest a phone call; the other forgot phone calls were hard for me and pressed for a phone call to minimize the time we needed for the conversation so I had to choose between having a very uncomfortable conversation - and not having a conversation I felt it was important to have. I opted to have the conversation, but remind him at the beginning of it so he understood any long difficult pauses.