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Elder-caregivers

slightlv

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8. My sister and I have been through some

Reply to Joe Nation (Original post)

Fri Oct 4, 2024, 11:46 PM

Oct 4

rough periods with our mom. I'm sorry to hear of your problems. These are not easy situations, and family should come together for the best of the person involved... but that seems to be the opposite in too many cases.

Like you, my sister and I split the powers between each other, but with the understanding that, unless it's an emergency the one will contact the other to run the solution by them before doing anything. It's worked well up til now. Mom lived with me and my hubby for a few years, but we never got help from my brother. Sis would take Mom for a weekend, or special nights when she didn't have to work the next day. We just keep the coms with my brother down to the absolute minimum and make our own decisions, since we're also pitching in money for her memory care.

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The week from hell [View all] Joe Nation Oct 4 OP

I'm so sorry that you had to put up with this selfish sibling. brer cat Oct 4 #1

I don't pay any attention at all to my sister. MotownPgh Oct 4 #2

I'm sorry cilla4progress Oct 4 #3

family is in many cases is way overrated Skittles Oct 4 #4

May your MIL pass gently when her time comes and then you never need to communicate with the holy terror again. MLAA Oct 4 #5

That's the plan. Joe Nation Oct 7 #10

Sorry you had to endure that. It seems as if there is "one" in every family. LoisB Oct 4 #6

It has been Joe Nation Oct 7 #11

Believe me, I do know. LoisB Oct 7 #12

Oh what a rough time!!!! Tumbulu Oct 4 #7

My sister and I have been through some slightlv Oct 4 #8

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Oct 5 #9

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