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For many of us, our mental picture of romantic love is a couple. After all, a firmly monogamous relationship between two people—ideally married—is often portrayed in popular culture as #goals. And to some degree that is reflected in American attitudes. A 2023 YouGov survey, for example, found that 55 percent of Americans preferred some form of fully monogamous relationship.

And yet that same poll found that roughly a third of Americans were interested in relationships that were something other than full monogamy. In fact, one in eight Americans said that, with their primary partner’s permission, they had engaged in sexual acts with someone other than that partner. But for many of us, our understanding of nonmonogamous relationships—especially polyamorous relationships, where people have multiple romantic relationships at the same time—remains murky.

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Pierre-Louis: How do polyamorists see love and intimacy sort of differ from how we’ve been socially conditioned?

Lester: So in polyamory the idea is that we have many people that we can love and who can love us; there’s not just one true love out there that you seek, and you find, and then you live in married bliss forever—or monogamous, doesn’t have to be married. But in polyamory the concept is that, as humans, we’re wired to connect, we’re wired to love, we’re wired to receive love and that that can take all sorts of different forms with different people.

Pierre-Louis: Can we talk a little bit about how polyamory is perceived in popular culture and then talk about sort of, how you highlight in the piece, the lived reality kind of contrasts with that?

Lester: In popular culture the perceptions of polyamory generally are fairly negative, especially, you know, as it’s grown in popularity and had portrayals on different media and things like that. It’s something that doesn’t fit well with our common understandings of what relationships, quote, unquote, should be, right? This idea that you’re not just monogamous with one partner, but you have many partners is usually seen as something unethical in our society, right?

And so that kind of framework is placed on polyamory as well, whereas in reality it’s very different than the way that most people think about it. The people that I spoke with and that I, that I know in this world, ethics is really at the heart of what they’re doing, and so they take it very, very seriously that everybody be thoroughly informed and thoroughly consent to any arrangements that are happening.

And so that’s really different than the perception that it’s just an excuse to cheat or it’s a way to sneak around or whatever the case may be—just get sex with different people. Like, it’s very different than that, and unfortunately, that’s the way it’s often portrayed.

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Pierre-Louis: How do polyamorists see love and intimacy sort of differ from how we’ve been socially conditioned?

Lester: So in polyamory the idea is that we have many people that we can love and who can love us; there’s not just one true love out there that you seek, and you find, and then you live in married bliss forever—or monogamous, doesn’t have to be married. But in polyamory the concept is that, as humans, we’re wired to connect, we’re wired to love, we’re wired to receive love and that that can take all sorts of different forms with different people.

Pierre-Louis: Can we talk a little bit about how polyamory is perceived in popular culture and then talk about sort of, how you highlight in the piece, the lived reality kind of contrasts with that?

Lester: In popular culture the perceptions of polyamory generally are fairly negative, especially, you know, as it’s grown in popularity and had portrayals on different media and things like that. It’s something that doesn’t fit well with our common understandings of what relationships, quote, unquote, should be, right? This idea that you’re not just monogamous with one partner, but you have many partners is usually seen as something unethical in our society, right?

And so that kind of framework is placed on polyamory as well, whereas in reality it’s very different than the way that most people think about it. The people that I spoke with and that I, that I know in this world, ethics is really at the heart of what they’re doing, and so they take it very, very seriously that everybody be thoroughly informed and thoroughly consent to any arrangements that are happening.

And so that’s really different than the perception that it’s just an excuse to cheat or it’s a way to sneak around or whatever the case may be—just get sex with different people. Like, it’s very different than that, and unfortunately, that’s the way it’s often portrayed.

YahooNews, 03/06/24
Unconventional tactics in California Senate race
Calif. Rep. Adam Schiff became a Democratic star during the Trump presidency as he led the impeachment effort against the Republican president.
In his run for U.S. Senate, Schiff sought to eliminate his top Democratic opponent for the seat, Rep. Katie Porter, by elevating a Republican.
California’s election rules dictate that the primary is open to candidates of all parties but that only two candidates advance to the fall election. So Schiff’s play was to help Republican Steve Garvey, a former star player for the Los Angeles Dodgers, to beat Porter.
Because California almost never elects Republicans to statewide office, Schiff wanted to run against Garvey, not Porter. And so his campaign spent $25 million to frame the race as one between himself and Garvey only, sidelining Porter.
https://www.yahoo.com/news/the-big-election-news-this-week-that-didnt-involve-trump-or-biden-201303607.html

Ed Currie, the South Carolina hot pepper expert who crossbred and grew the Carolina Reaper that’s hotter than most pepper sprays police use to subdue unruly criminals, has broken his own world record with a pepper that’s three times hotter.

Pepper X was publicly named the hottest pepper in the world on Oct. 9 by the Guinness Book of World Records, beating out the Reaper in Currie’s decade long hunt to perfect a pepper that he says provides “immediate, brutal heat.”

Heat in peppers is measured in Scoville Heat Units. Zero is bland, and a regular jalapeno pepper registers about 5,000 units. A habanero, the record-holder about 25 years ago, typically tops 100,000. The Guinness Book of World Records lists the Carolina Reaper at 1.64 million units.

Pepper X’s record is an average of 2.69 million units. By comparison, pepper spray commonly holstered by police is around 1.6 million units. Bear spray advertises at 2.2 million units.

Pepper X has been in the works since Currie last set the hottest pepper record in 2013 with the Carolina Reaper, a bright red knobby fruit with what aficionados call a scorpion tail. The goal was to offer an extremely hot pepper flavored with sweetness.

Pepper X is greenish-yellow, doesn’t have the same shelf appeal and carries an earthy flavor once its heat is delivered. It’s a crossbreed of a Carolina Reaper and what Currie mysteriously classifies as a “pepper that a friend of mine sent me from Michigan that was brutally hot.”